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he will (a “nice guy“), why would you accept soeonme who does the opposite (a “bad boy“)?Let’s get smart about this. It’s about time that we realized that real men are nice guys.~ SamanthaWow I agree with michellemysistahs, as soon as I read this I felt guilty I apologize nice guys !!!# Posted By determined_MD | 2/2/10 11 4 PM | Report | Replygood post , this from a mans point of view who in the 60 s was a shy(to the point of being paranoid) actually afraid of what girls thought of me . i was the proverbial nice guy .i agree with what you have here:quote:Nice guys don’t finish last because they’re weaker. The only reason “nice guys finish last” is because we give the “bad boys” an unfair advantage. By accepting their behavior, we make it easy for them to abuse us. If certain behaviors become truly unacceptable in relationships, they will be discontinued because they no longer offer any advantage. If that guy you’ve been obsessing about hasn’t called you for a week- forget about him! Don’t allow him to be “mysterious.” Allow yourself to see that he’s not interested and find a guy who is! If what you want is a guy who’ll call you when he says he will (a “nice guy“), why would you accept soeonme who does the opposite (a “bad boy“)?this is from another thread and post from a synical nice guy and the present signal or message girls/women send nice guys by there actions . which by the way may give alittle more insite into the nice guy problem . (again this guy has some good points but as said very synical and alittle angry) also i've included some side thoughts found in ( ).Posted Over a year ago Views 30605 Comments 93 Category DatingWhere Did All The Nice Guys Go?I see this question posted with some regularity in the many personals sections on the internet and what not, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out quite yet.What happened to all the nice guys?The answer is simple: you did.See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were f***ing treated you.At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were just friends. Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you weren't dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, What happened to all the nice guys? Well, once again, you did.You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy (tampon) without reciprocating, in kind,(how many ever tried to set up the guy pal with another girl , yah we know it isn't you but at least try to help him knowing if you were close to him that he had no love life at all) with physical intimacy (and that doesn't necessarily translate to having sex with him). You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive just-a- friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.(nice guy turn jerk and it has happened girls, to alot of really sweet nice guys. there's even, imagine this, guys that say they turned to being jerks just to get a girlfriend and it worked yet if they started showing their nice guy tendencies the girls would start loosing interest as soon as they started acting like jerks again the girls interest would return)Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of nice guys in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:1.) Build a time machine.2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab a hold of it.I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto soeonme just like you.If you were five years younger.So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've f***ed yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't want you, now.(this isn't necessarily true there's been many nice guys that would take the girl, however at times the nice guy does feel at times that he was just settled for as a last option. and then wonders if i'm so right for her now why wasn't i right for her while we were teens or early twenty's. i'm the same guy now as i was then, (the boring ,asexual,doormat,wimpy,weak, and other such adjectives that girls/women asign to the nice guy)in all truthfulness i hope that more women read what you have here and take the article i included (with a grain of salt)